Brilliant tips for dealing with a difficult employer

You’re good at what you do, and you put a great deal of effort into demonstrating that fact but no matter how hard you try you feel as though you’re not appreciated. Your employer expects too much of you while giving back so little, shows favouritism toward a colleague that you believe fails to pull his/her weight, or continues to find fault in everything that you do.

All of these are signs of a poor employer and can start to affect the way that you feel toward your job to the point that you just want to pack up your desk and leave. Instead of choosing to take that route, here are some things you might want to do instead.  

Make a note of your issues

Keeping a written record of the work you’re expected to do, times that you’ve gone above and beyond, or instances where you feel that your boss has behaved unfairly toward you will not only give you evidence when the time comes to approach them but also give you a chance to gain perspective on the situation. This record will help you to identify any patterns in your boss’ behaviour and see if there are any smaller problems that you can let go of.

Speak to them directly

However tempted you are to vent and gossip about your boss’ shortcomings behind their back, talking to them directly is always a more professional approach. A clear and calm approach can give you a better chance to air your feelings and concerns, and give them a chance to talk about their expectations of you.

Maintain a positive mindset

Having issues at work can really get you down, but by maintaining a positive mindset, you’ll find it easier to leave your frustrations at work rather than letting them affect your social life and relationships.

Approach a member of HR


If you’ve spoken to your boss and it hasn’t allowed you to move forward then speak to someone in HR about your grievances. However, bear in mind that this person works for your company and therefore their solution will be in the best interests of the company.

That means that not all HR teams are reliable so you may have to consider a solicitor or HR advisor then, depending on the situation. If your boss’ behaviour is harming you, then it may become a legal matter, and you should speak to ACAS or a union rep.

Keep your options option

In the worst case, your situation may become too unbearable to continue with. That means that you should start searching for a new job. More often than not, financial constraints will make it difficult for you to simply jump ship so you should look for ways that you can improve your work/life balance.

Learn to accept that you are not responsible for your boss’ behaviour and that you deserve a job where you feel valued as an employer.

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